08.29.08
Posted in Dating Diaries, Random Thoughts, Relationship ups and downs, SEX! at 4:31 pm by Anna
Okay, my guy friends are always asking me how to impress girls, so as a public service to all you good guys out there, who want a little extra help, here are some suggestions from my perspective, in no particular order.
I’ll post more every few days, and please everyone feel free to add more in your comments!
1. Be a good listener - most girls I know (including myself) melt at that. Especially when you remember, and bring up, something she’s said in the past. Shows you care.
2. Ask questions about how she “feels” about something, instead of giving advice…if she tells you about a difficult co-worker…instead of jumping in with what she should say, or analyzing the situation, start with…”that must be really hard - how does it make you feel?”
3. compliment her specifically - not just something glib or general where she’s wondering, “I wonder if he says that to all the girls”…say something that is unique to her, like, “I love the way you tilt your head back when you laugh”…or something like that.
4. Be a gentleman - do the old fashioned things like pulling out her chair, opening a door, offering to buy a drink or dinner. As long as you show her respect, it’s not chauvenistic, it’s romantic. It makes us feel like you are our hero - and yes, we do like that!
5. At the same time, do it sensitively. It’s not supposed to be a bull-in-a-China Shop thing; and we hate guys who think they know it all. Find the happy midddle ground. Strength and gentleness are not mutually exclusive - you can be both at the same time.
I hope that is helpful. I’m open to feedback &/or questions! 
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08.28.08
Posted in Dating Diaries, SEX! at 12:43 pm by Anna
I am usually kind of shy when it comes to talking about sex, but I just cannot keep this to myself - gotta share it with our readers!!!!
Last night I had the best sex of my life!
It was with this guy I used to work with a few years ago named Matt. He’s not really my type. He’s tall and skinny, with glasses - a self-proclaimed computer geek.
We were at a birthday party in the Valley, of a mutual friend and former co-worker. We had both carpooled with our respective friends, so neither of us had to drive which is kind of rare in LA. I guess we both were thinking the same thing: Take advantage of the moment and party!
I was sipping delicious apple martini’s all night, and feeling less inhibited than usual (dangerous I know!) I was happy to see him and we caught up for a few minutes outside on the balcony. Then all of a sudden, I don’t even know how it happened - we were making out.
His lips should be patented. Trademarked, copywrited.
No one has ever kissed me like that - no one. He pulled away for a second, and looked at me. Neither of us said a word, we just ran, hand in hand, to his car. He has a Hummer. Plenty of room…
He undressed me in what felt like one fluid motion. Had his hands all over me, kissed almost every inch of my body and his breath was hot and steamy. I was so wet, I felt like screaming but was a little self conscious because he was parked on a street.
To be honest, I don’t know how long it lasted - maybe an hour? But he smooth at first, then he got faster and faster and it drove me crazy. He was groaning the whole time. I had multiple orgasms - 3 to be exact!!!!
Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. I’ve heard other women talk about it, but this is the first time I’ve experienced it first hand. Wow!!
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