08.29.08
Ways to Impress Girls
Okay, my guy friends are always asking me how to impress girls, so as a public service to all you good guys out there, who want a little extra help, here are some suggestions from my perspective, in no particular order.
I’ll post more every few days, and please everyone feel free to add more in your comments!
1. Be a good listener - most girls I know (including myself) melt at that. Especially when you remember, and bring up, something she’s said in the past. Shows you care.
2. Ask questions about how she “feels” about something, instead of giving advice…if she tells you about a difficult co-worker…instead of jumping in with what she should say, or analyzing the situation, start with…”that must be really hard - how does it make you feel?”
3. compliment her specifically - not just something glib or general where she’s wondering, “I wonder if he says that to all the girls”…say something that is unique to her, like, “I love the way you tilt your head back when you laugh”…or something like that.
4. Be a gentleman - do the old fashioned things like pulling out her chair, opening a door, offering to buy a drink or dinner. As long as you show her respect, it’s not chauvenistic, it’s romantic. It makes us feel like you are our hero - and yes, we do like that!
5. At the same time, do it sensitively. It’s not supposed to be a bull-in-a-China Shop thing; and we hate guys who think they know it all. Find the happy midddle ground. Strength and gentleness are not mutually exclusive - you can be both at the same time.
I hope that is helpful. I’m open to feedback &/or questions! 