02.20.08
I’ve got a case of the blahs.
Don’t get me wrong. Jameson and I are good. No, we are great. And I am happy. But, even the best relationships aren’t perfect, because we as people are not perfect and even though this is the best relationship (bar none) that I have ever been in, I still have my little dramas. And my freak out moments. There are still waves that rock the boat.
Most of them revolve around me not feeling like “enough”. If I’m quiet one day, I feel like I’m not bubbly enough. If I’m not super friendly with his friends, I feel like I’m not friendly enough, or confident enough, or gregarious enough. Whenever I see his parents, I feel like I wasn’t gracious enough. When we are reading or watching tv and I ask a question, I wonder if I’m smart enough. Amd my skinny jeans that dig into my waist? I ask if I’m thin/pretty enough.
Sometimes I feel like I’ve lost any sparkle in my personality. Sometimes I feel boring.
Does everyone feel blah sometimes? How do you get over it?
Margarita said,
February 20, 2008 at 8:19 pm
I definitely feel blah sometimes, and I think everyone does. I usually get over it with time passing, but I try to do something that I enjoy and I feel better, making me think it was all in my head.
prettikat said,
February 20, 2008 at 8:40 pm
I don’t know why we all have this ‘not enough’-isms in our heads. It’s not about being a people pleaser, but it’s just there in our heads beating us down. Most of the time the best thing to do is to ignore it but I’m looking for a permanent solution too because it’s so damaging isn’t it?
Shy-Girl said,
February 20, 2008 at 10:09 pm
I do something new and different, that will rock my world. Like buying the most gorgeous shoes, or an adventure with people I care about. Or…what about that course on relationships with men, that Anna blogged about?
kristin said,
February 21, 2008 at 5:55 am
i feel like i just read from my own insecurities. i feel like that all the time and, finally, i for once feel like i’m not alone.
AmyD said,
February 21, 2008 at 10:36 am
Oh, for sure! We all feel this way from time to time! If, however, it’s starting to control or affect your life, there might be more to this than a case of the ‘blah’s.’ When did this start? Maybe you just need to make more time for yourself to hang out with girlfriends, exercise and have a little fun? Also, how is the job situation? I know for SURE that if you aren’t happy in that arena, it’s so easy to feel like you suck. Try to think and if you can’t put your finger on it (REALLY), maybe it might help to have a friend or a counselor talk you through it to help you figure it out. Good luck and hang in there!!
Heather said,
February 21, 2008 at 2:06 pm
I get like that sometimes too. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he is so close with his guy friends so the girlfriends/wives/fiances are always hanging out too. We all get along great but sometimes I don’t feel like being social and then everyone asks what’s wrong with me. Maybe I’m tired, maybe I just want to listen, maybe I don’t have anything to talk about. You’re definitely not the only one who feels a case of the ‘blahs’.
Jen said,
February 21, 2008 at 2:34 pm
I feel the same way lately. Let me know if you find a solution. I feel like the more uniteresting person in the world.
Dinkerwald said,
February 21, 2008 at 3:07 pm
Sounds like you’re your own worst enemy. Be honest, has he or anyone else (except you, of course) said anything that even hints (no not that , you would make something out of a hint that was not there), has anyone said anything directly that points to what you’re feeling? My guess is NOT !
Relax, take a deep breath, life’s a roller coaster at best, stop plucking problems out of thin air, when you get spinach stuck in your front teeth, someone will tell you.
Love him, love yourself.